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So I’ve started and deleted and restarted and deleted and restarted this post many times. I have something I want to say, and I don’t know how to say it; I hope this draft will actually get published because it is a topic I am very interested in: The objectification of women.
I was watching a television show and one of the main characters was wearing a “revealing” top (this show is from the 90’s so it was considered “revealing” back then). This particular top put all her curves on display and showcased her entire back. She said she liked the top because it made her feel “saucy.” As she walked down the hallway many guys leered in her direction, nodding in approval. She then came upon three guys who threw out comments such as “who turned down the temperature in here? It’s ice cold” and “Damn where you been hiding those?” (The third guy, her supposed best friend, just stood there and laughed.)
The next thing I know she is calling in to the hurt line, saying she was sexually harassed and suddenly she is a victim and the guys were all sent to sensitivity camp.
Now, while I fully believe those comments were disgusting, one of the male characters said something that made me think. He told her if she didn’t want to be objectified, she shouldn’t wear the outfits.
Huh. I think he has a point. I mean, come on. Most every single girl has worn a particular outfit just to get a guys attention, be it from one guy or a whole room. Girls know (most of the time) exactly what they are doing when they put on an outfit. She herself said it made her feel “saucy” and to that I say, good for you! A lot of girls don’t wear clothes they want to because they are too shy. She had guts! But don’t think that guys are supposed to look the other way and not think typical guy thoughts because you are only wearing the outfit to make yourself feel good. Plenty of girls have admitted to me that guys making comments and calling out to them *IS* what makes them feel good about themselves!
But then I started playing devils advocate. You wouldn’t believe how many men stare at my chest. It is UNBELIEVABLE. And I will admit it, YES! Sometimes I DO wear a particular top that will draw attention. I have worn plenty of dresses (both on purpose and not) that have caused men of various ages to call out to me. But I can wear a t-shirt and guys will still stare at my chest. I mean, I can’t help it. I have boobs. Every girl does, mine just happen to be bigger than others. Does that give men the right to stare at them?
See, here is the issue. No matter what I put on, 97.8% of the time, I will have cleavage showing. It is just a fact. I wear camisoles under my shirts, I sew the neck line up a little, I wear sweaters, I do all sorts of things to make the cleavage magically disappear (which it never does). And guys (even my gal friends) always point this out to me. They say, “woah, Lauren, showing a little cleavage there huh?” And I look in the mirror and my shirt is up rather high but I STILL HAVE CLEAVAGE THAT I CAN NOT CONTROL. So I calmly point out that I can’t help it, and I shouldn’t have to dress like a nun to be modest. It embarrasses me when they say this stuff; it makes me feel slutty when I am wearing a perfectly fine outfit.
So where do we draw the line? I think that if a girl puts on a revealing outfit, especially if this is done on purpose because she wants attention, then she deserves every derogatory mark shouted at her. But if a girl wears a t-shirt, A T-SHIRT, or any modest shirt, then it is unacceptable for guys to objectify her.
So what do you think? Am I completely wrong in my rationale? Did those guys in the show deserve to go to sensitivity training? Would you consider those marks to be sexually harassing? I’d love some input.
Going through my nutrition book made me realize how much I’ve learned from watching Scrubs. And they say you don’t learn from TV.
Have I really been gone that long?
You mean–No, no that can’t be right.
I haven’t (really) blogged since…DECEMBER 30TH?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
I don’t believe it, I just don’t believe it. But alas, it is true. I am so ashamed Internet. Granted, I was out of the country for a month, but still. That is a very long time away from you. I think if I had to pin point the reason it would be this really weird thing I developed… I don’t know if you have ever heard of it, but recently I went out there and got myself a social life.
I know, I know. What am I doing with one of those? Well those crazy kids from New Zealand apparently liked me enough to keep hanging around me back here in the States. So I’ve been quite busy with all of that, plus school work. My goodness- the school work I have accumulated this semester! I still can’t believe how crazy it is. I’ve got papers (worth 30% freaking percent of my grade- YIKES) and tests and quizzes and projects and more papers and presentations and many, many, many books to read. I’ve been in class for…five weeks and I’ve already read six books and written papers on them. Such is the life of an English major. I’m not really complaining though– I like the books well enough. I’ve been reading: Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe, The Autobiography of My Mother by Jamaica Kincaid, Translations by Brian Friel, Nervous Conditions by Tsitsi Dangarembga and The Freedom Writers Diary by The Freedom Writers.
As you can see, that alone has kept me quite busy. Add to that lots of reading in text books and I basically have no free time to hang out with my new found friends (although I always manage to find time… interesting how that works). Also, for my Diversity in Education class, one of my assignments is to keep a weekly blog about our class. Difficult, I know, because I don’t have any experience in that sort of thing. Hardy-har I’m HILARIOUS. You can find the blog here, and you don’t have to be an Education major to comment on the posts- I would love your input!
I know this post is ridiculously short, but I have to study for a Nutrition exam (gross to the maxx) and go to a meeting for my French class (yes, I am still in French, no I do not have the same professor, yes I need to tell you that story some time. Remind me). At least I’m posting again, right? Yeah, let’s go with that.
Last year I did an overview of Oscar Fashion. It was so much fun I am going to do it again (instead of homework). Luckily I had far more people on my best dressed/ good list than I had on my bad. So here we go!
Let’s start with the best dressed category of the evening.
This was probably the hardest category. There can only be one winner for best dressed male and female! After a lot (A LOT) of deliberation, my vote goes to:
Demi Moore and Zac Efron.
Demi’s Atelier Versache dress was SO beautiful; I was obsessed with it all night. At first, I didn’t even recognize her! The more they showed this dress, the more I fell in love with it. The color of the dress perfectly matched her skin tone, and the fit was stunning. I loved the bodice, and usually I am not a fan of the ruffles under the waist, but she really pulled it off. She didn’t overdo the jewelry, which really worked. Simply gorgeous. Zac Efron got a “HOLY FRICK” out of me, which means he stepped it up a notch from last year’s hair disaster. Not to go into too much detail (because my dad reads this blog- hi dad!) but that suit fit him NICELY. Good grief he is a hottie.
And now for the honorable mention best dressed:
Cameron Diaz and Tom Ford
Cameron looked shockingly beautiful in her Oscar de la Renta gown. I say shockingly because, for once, her hair, dress, jewelry and makeup all worked in her favor and she looked… put together. Also, she was missing the ever present gum that she is always seen chewing during awards shows. I was very surprised when she stepped onto the red carpet. I wish she could do this look always! And of course, Tom Ford looked beautiful in his own creation.
Rachel McAdams and Maggie Gyllenhaal
I think Rachel McAdams is one of the most beautiful women in all of Hollywood, and she looked so lovely in the lively Eli Saab dress. Her hair and makeup created the perfect ensemble. Maggie also went for a bolder pattern and looked beautiful. Maggie is always hit or miss for me (mostly miss) but I loved this Dries Van Noten gown the second I saw it.
Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds
Rounding out the best dressed honorable mentions are Sandra and Ryan. Sandra looked beautiful in her Marchesa gown. Her hair was quite lovely and her makeup was very natural looking which went well with her dress. And when does Ryan NOT look good?
Moving on, we come to the “Almost There” category:
Miley Cyrus and George Clooney
Miley‘s dress was stunning….from the waist down. I feel like the designer (Jenny Packham) forgot to finish the top of the dress. Of course, Miley’s slouching posture didn’t help things. I think she could have made it work if she would have kept her shoulders up like a normal person. And I love me some George C, but come on. What was with his hair?
Zoe Saldona and Kate Winslet
Zoe‘s Givenchy dress looks great from the waist up. And Zoe’s dress looks good from the waist down. But these two halves make a rather terrible whole. The color, however, looked beautiful on her! And Kate’s Yves Saint Laurent gown looked lovely, but I don’t particularly like the color of this dress on her skin tone and the semi-awkward waistline.
Anna Kendrick and Sarah Jessica Parker
Anna is beautiful and this Elle Saab gown is beautiful, but I feel as though the color washes her out. Yes, she wears it quite nicely, but I think it would have been pretty in a slightly darker hue. SJP is known for her outrageous dresses, and I must say I disliked this Chanel Couture at first. However, as the night progressed it looked better and I grew to semi-like it. I just think it has an awkward fit. It if was more fitted to her body, it would have looked fabulous!
Meryl Streep and Charlize Theron
Okay, now. I love Meryl Streep but I have always hated her outfits. They are dull, boring, and don’t fit her very well. This year’s Chris March gown was better than last, but I still wasn’t a fan. The white was lovely and fresh, but I didn’t really like the hemline. Charlize’s Dior Haute Couture dress definitely caused some controversy, but honestly I kind of like it! I think the roses are outrageous and thought they maybe should have been a band of roses around the waistline. But the fit is great and the color looked fantastic on her.
And finally we come to the Worst Dressed section. This year my pick for the absolute worst dressed is:
Holy Frick this dress is horrid. I mean really, really horrid. The color looks beautiful on her, but then I’m like, what the frick is she doing wearing a fan? What is weird is this gown is made by Marchesa, as was Sandra Bullock’s gown. I wonder what went wrong. I just….words just can’t…. must. go. throw. up.
Worst dressed honorable mentions go to:
JLO and Diane Kruger
JLO is lovely, but this Armani Prive dress has a lot of…stuff going on. A lot of bad stuff. And I think Diane is absolutely beautiful, but this dress is a mess. I love the top, I love the ruffles, and I love the train, but I hate it all together. This dress has the potential to be simply stunning, but it ended up a mess.
Well there you have it. Feel free to let me know if you agree/ disagree with my choices! Or if I left some people off this list that you would have loved to see!